Wednesday, November 29, 2017
Wednesday, October 18, 2017
Lack of willpower
decision fatigue
"Willpower" is basically BS, but it's BS most people believe in. Even people who have been studying these things.
So... what makes me think I know it better than people who have been studying it?
I am one of the people who has problems with "willpower" or the "lack of it", and I have overcome these problems, and I know it has nothing to do with any of that stuff people say.
It really is just an excuse. You say it and your brain accepts it as a fact and makes your body obey. So you think it is a fact. Now, if you start telling yourself that you have all the willpower ever needed to do ANYTHING, your brain will accept that as a fact and will make your body obey. And suddenly you HAVE all the "willpower". It is because there is no such thing as willpower. It's all an illusion, an idea.
It's like "Do. Or do not. There is no try."
Do, or do not. You have already made the decision. Your brain is already preparing your body and mind to do what you decided.
So to overcome your "lack of willpower", you need to make the decision before you NEED to make the decision, and rob yourself any options.
Yes, you want to lose weight.
Yes, you want to nourish your body with nutritious, delicious food.
Yes, you want to go out for a run.
OK, so you don't want to go out today. You don't need to. After the run.
Because not going for a run is not an option. You don't have that choice. Don't start lying to yourself about that. You don't have that choice. You have already decided you want to go for a run. Sorry, you should have thought that when you made the decision, it's too late to change your mind now. When you have reached your goal, then you can make a new decision, but what is your goal? To get fit? To lose weight? To run every morning? If it's the last one... Oops.
No, you don't want that piece of cake. You have already decided that, when you decided to start eating well. You don't want to eat anything, because you are not hungry.
Now... it's totally OK to change your goals, but if you have decided for the last 20 years to lose that 20 pounds and you just keep changing your decision all the time, until next time you pick the same goal again.... it's time you stop lying to yourself. You don't want to lose that 20 pounds. You want something else. Find out what that is.
"Willpower" is basically BS, but it's BS most people believe in. Even people who have been studying these things.
So... what makes me think I know it better than people who have been studying it?
I am one of the people who has problems with "willpower" or the "lack of it", and I have overcome these problems, and I know it has nothing to do with any of that stuff people say.
It really is just an excuse. You say it and your brain accepts it as a fact and makes your body obey. So you think it is a fact. Now, if you start telling yourself that you have all the willpower ever needed to do ANYTHING, your brain will accept that as a fact and will make your body obey. And suddenly you HAVE all the "willpower". It is because there is no such thing as willpower. It's all an illusion, an idea.
It's like "Do. Or do not. There is no try."
Do, or do not. You have already made the decision. Your brain is already preparing your body and mind to do what you decided.
So to overcome your "lack of willpower", you need to make the decision before you NEED to make the decision, and rob yourself any options.
Yes, you want to lose weight.
Yes, you want to nourish your body with nutritious, delicious food.
Yes, you want to go out for a run.
OK, so you don't want to go out today. You don't need to. After the run.
Because not going for a run is not an option. You don't have that choice. Don't start lying to yourself about that. You don't have that choice. You have already decided you want to go for a run. Sorry, you should have thought that when you made the decision, it's too late to change your mind now. When you have reached your goal, then you can make a new decision, but what is your goal? To get fit? To lose weight? To run every morning? If it's the last one... Oops.
No, you don't want that piece of cake. You have already decided that, when you decided to start eating well. You don't want to eat anything, because you are not hungry.
Now... it's totally OK to change your goals, but if you have decided for the last 20 years to lose that 20 pounds and you just keep changing your decision all the time, until next time you pick the same goal again.... it's time you stop lying to yourself. You don't want to lose that 20 pounds. You want something else. Find out what that is.
Perhaps you want to get nice clothes and they don't exist in your size? Then I suggest you learn to sew clothes. Perhaps you want to get a new bikini and go to a beach? You can. Right now. They make bikinis in many sizes.
You want to look nice? You do. There will always be people thinking you look horrible. But there will also always be people thinking you look nice. (You better be one of them.) And most people won't be thinking about your looks at all.
Besides, it doesn't matter.
It's not a beauty contest.
There are no laws against "ugly people in public", even though some a-holes would like that.
You have the same right to enjoy public places, beaches, restaurants and everything as everyone else.
Your looks are not your best quality any way, nor do they matter much. You have plenty of wonderful qualities, you don't need to look like a photoshopped teenager, too.
If someone says something nasty to you about how you look, you can always answer "If you don't like the look of me, don't look at me." Any further comment is to be brushed away with "not my problem". And then try to remember that yourself. It's not your problem if someone doesn't like the way you - or anyone - looks. You don't get to decide what they look at, and if someone wants to look at ugly things - it's their business. I'd much prefer to look at pretty things, but - who am I to judge? And who are they to judge your looks? If you were participating in some sort of beauty contest, then, yes, but you aren't. You are just participating in life, and looks are not even on the list of qualities to be judged. You don't owe anyone to look nice. You don't owe it to yourself nor to your lover, why would you owe it to a total stranger? On top of that, a stranger with no manners and nasty personality? Does anyone owe ANYTHING to people like that? I don't think so.
Maybe you want to have friends? Your weight is irrelevant.
Maybe you want certain hobbies? Your weight is irrelevant. Unless there is a weight limit. There is no weight limit to most sports or any other hobbies, so are you sure there is one in your chose one?
Maybe you want to not be teased, harassed, called names, bullied? That... unfortunately, no-one can avoid that. We live in a culture with very little compassion and kindness. People think they are entitled to criticize their fellow human beings, of any reason, and they do. It is seen as witty, and people who react are seen as weak and over-sensitive people, who "need to toughen up, get a thicker skin". Yep, more BS. Sensitivity is a beautiful quality. People who expect a silk dress to endure what a heavy-duty overall does, are idiots. Sensitive people are silk dresses or cashmere sweaters, hard people are heavy-duty overalls and firemen rocks. There is time and place for both of these, but they are not the same. Yet, when it comes to people, the culture somehow expects everyone to be Kevlar. And then they wonder why there is so little kindness, consideration, care and love in the society...
There is only one thing you can do about bullying.
Remember that they don't define you, they define themselves. It is not so that people are kind to you, because you are kind to them. They are kind to you because they are kind people. Bullies bully because they are bullies, not because you deserve to be bullied. You don't get to choose how they react, what they do or say, you don't have that kind of control over them. They are not helpless victims of your magical influence that somehow forces them to bully you. Remember all those dog-owners who reacted on the "men can't help raping" BS? "If my dog won't touch a piece of meat on the floor in front of it, because I said "no", then a man should be able to not touch a woman because she said "no" - or didn't say "yes". A human being should be able to not bully a person they know they can bully. It's not the victim's fault he/she is bullied. It is 100% the bully's fault.
And remember that these people are doing the best they know how. Bullying is a reaction of fear. Yep... people who bully you are afraid of you. Your mere existence is a threat to their status, their position. Just look at people who bully - there's always some sort of strength, power. Either they are popular, and their victim is not, which gives them the power of numbers and support, or they are physically strong, and their victim is not. The bullied ones, they are either the smart ones, the bookish boys, who aren't that strong and physically able to defend themselves, but everyone knows they are smarter than the bullies, and that is really scary. What if people start to appreciate smartness over muscles? What will these bullies have left? Nothing. Or the bullied ones are those who are different. In a society where the looks are everything, people being different are saying "I don't care about the limitations put on by the society, I look as I please, not to please you". And that is a challenge. These people have to be "put in their place", made to "realize how wrong it is to be different", because "different" people are not sheep. "Different" people are not followers. It's hard to control and manipulate "different" people. And this is also the reason to why so few adults support and protect the bullied ones. They are also just people, and think the same way. The age doesn't really matter, this happens everywhere, from kindergarten to old people's homes.
So - now that you know why these people are saying those nasty things to you, maybe you could have some pity to them. It's really hard to be afraid of someone you pity. It's also really hard to get hurt by what they say. You know their mouths are just moving and they are spouting their own fear and pain and anger, it just doesn't mean anything. They are just trying to deal with all those feelings and they do it the best they can. They haven't been taught to do it in any other way. They are being rewarded for doing it this way. They think it's right. Poor buggers.
And a fat woman comfortable with her weight and looks is really damn scary... she threatens the whole structure of the society! A woman who cannot be controlled, manipulated and diverted by making her ashamed of not looking "right", and focusing all her efforts to that! A woman who thinks she has other qualities than the patriarchal reproductive ones! (healthy, young, fertile, child-bearing hips, nursing breasts...). A person who says "I know what you think of me, but I don't care". That's about as scary as it gets!
I don't know why you want to lose weight. But you do. Find out, and maybe it's THAT what you want, and not the actual weightloss. (Also, you probably will lose weight when you get THAT. People are mysterious creatures...)
Also, if you want to, let's say, try bungee jumping, and there is a weight limit, then you either try to find a way to bungee jump without weight limit, or lose the weight, and if it doesn't matter how to lose weight, I sincerely suggest you stop eating unless you reach your goal weight.
FASTING IS NOT A HEALTHY WAY OF LOSING WEIGHT AND SHOULDN'T BE USED LIGHTLY.
One should not do this unless your BMI is over 30, or longer than a week if it's under 30.
No need to think about what to eat, just eat nothing. The permanent damage caused by starving will start only after one's body has used all the fat there is, and reaching a normal adult weight limit will not get you there.
Just remember to drink, though. Water is absolutely necessary, but it would be good to drink milk, too. It is very nice package of nutrients body needs, like calcium for bones, lactose to keep your brain in working condition and many minerals and vitamins, but if you have problems with milk, try to replace it with something nutritionally equal.
Gurgle with sugar water (remember to spit it out) when you are hungry.
You might get problems with your bowels, but this is not permanent. (It's very likely you have problems with your bowels if your BMI is over 30).You will be able to eat so that your bowels get in good shape pretty quickly after you stop your fasting (and I also suggest you do that.).
Also, you need to keep moving, to see that your body doesn't use the muscles to feed itself, but the fat.
Human beings are made to store fat to feed upon during starvation. Let your body do its thing.
But, and I really can't say this too often, THIS IS A DANGEROUS WAY OF LOSING WEIGHT, DON'T DO IT UNLESS YOU REALLY CAN'T DO IT IN ANY OTHER WAY, BUT REALLY NEED TO.
It WILL fuck up your head.
You WILL have to fix the problems caused by it, and it WILL cause problems.
If you want to lose weight in a healthy, sane and permanent manner, there are ways to do that. Basically eat less, move more. If you just skip sugar (and sweeteners) and refined wheat, and add veggies, and take a walk every day, you will lose weight until you reach a healthy weight. You don't need to count calories or think what you eat, where, when, why or how much.
Thursday, September 14, 2017
How to be a Bon Vivant
Everything can be learned.
Appreciate the finer things in life. Gradually change everything you have into finer things. Learn to recognize quality, and always choose quality over quantity. If you can't afford anything fine at the moment, have nothing. Be a bon vivant minimalist.
Refuse to eat and drink anything but the best. Be a gourmet not a gourmand. Don't overeat.
Refuse to experience and enjoy anything but the best
Learn to socialize with everyone.
Appreciate arts and culture. Learn to play at least one instrument well and learn to sing, learn to draw and paint, learn to dance, learn photography, read, become a movie connoisseur. Go to museums, exhibitions, art and culture events. educate yourself about these things.
Create yourself a perfect style. Have a capsule wardrobe of the best items, and then expand with the accessories. Always be perfectly dressed. Aim at elegance, style and class, but be unique and creative. Be stylish. Style isn't one thing, style is your thing.
Take the best care of your physique. Be well-groomed. See that you are always as polished as you possibly can, from top to toes. From hair to shoes.
See that your hair is clean, the dye is as it should be, the cut is good and the coiffure in order.
See that you clean your skin daily.
See that your teeth are clean and your breath nice.
See that your posture is good.
Exercise. Be fit.
Don't get fat.
Behave as if you were a great beauty or incredibly handsome - or more than mere beauty. You are unique and special, striking, extraordinary.
Learn to enhance what's good and if you can't hide your flaws, make them into what makes you extraordinary. Cultivate charm and radiance. Be alive, full of energy.
Cultivate your manners and etiquette. Always be the perfect gentleman or lady.
Don't use the subway if you can avoid it. Stay above ground, and enjoy the sunlight and day and nature and weather.
Be a philanthropist. Learn to love people and their stories. Everyone has a story.
It would be good if you knew how to ride, swim, play golf and tennis, and how to shoot.Basically, you should be able to do any sports with adequate skills and ease.
Look for novelty and excitement. Choose adventure. Collect experiences. Try everything. Do something scary every day.
Become a traveler. Learn to tell great anecdotes and travel stories. Read a lot of travel stories and learn from them. Have adventures when you travel and do unusual things. Don't do the things most people have on their bucketlists, don't visit the common tourist attractions, find the locals and ask to hang along and join them in things they do, à la Lonely Planet's Six Degrees
Become an epicurean.
Learn to tell jokes and stories. Become a raconteur.
Read with paper and pen and write down good quotes and nice ways of saying things.
Improve your vocabulary.
Read essays, poetry, short stories.
Learn to speak in public.
Become a great host and a great guest - the life of the party.
Learn party tricks.
Learn to make things fun. Be inclusive and safe. Practical jokes might be fun - to the one who makes them - but they are seldom fun to the "victim" - which is obvious by the fact that the victim is often called just that - a victim. It is possible to have fun without anyone getting hurt or sad or feeling awkward and uncomfortable. Find out how and learn how to make that happen.
It helps if you learn to see the fun, the comical, the positive, the funny in every situation, and practice your observation skills.
Learn to inspire people.
Be trustworthy, inspire confidence. Never tell who the people are in your stories, to tell people they can trust you.
Be enthusiastic, instigate things, do things even if you were the only one doing it, join in, invite people.
Be positive. Be inclusive. Be glad, joyful, happy. Be Pollyanna. Don't criticize, don't evaluate, don't judge. There's quite enough of that in the world. Encourage, compliment, show interest and enthusiasm, find good sides in things, use stupid ideas as a springboard to something better and give others credit. People will soon learn that it's only with you things get a silver lining...
Have a never-say-die attitude. Be ambitious, aim high, and never surrender if you want to inspire people that they, too, can accomplish anything they set their mind to.
Don't be a egocentric pompous ass. Don't be better-than-thou or pretentious. Be equal, see and treat everyone as equals, with something to teach to you. Be respectful. Be interested.
gregarious, social, genial, outgoing, convivial, companionable, friendly, extroverted.
a lack of inhibition
a lively personality
his passion—and ability to communicate it.
those who live to hold court
penchant for escapism
strong appetites—for attention, alcohol, drugs or gambling.
aplomb, self-confidence, self-assurance, poise, self-possession, calmness, composure, collectedness, presence of mind, level-headedness, sangfroid, equilibrium, equanimity, nerve, nonchalance
cavalier, carefree, jaunty, aristocratic, free-spirited elegance, gallant
Lean and graceful as an Abyssinian cat
unconventional and capricious (I wonder how to express capricious so it's something positive? :-D
Not predictable, surprising, novel, excited, bubbly, whimsical... eccentric, changeable, coquettish, mischievous, like a fairy or sprite, flamboyant
pursuit of life,
the eclectic tastes
a social butterfly, socialite
"Society eats whatever is boring, injured, useless or dumb"
So be interesting, invulnerable and intelligent, be witty and funny, lively and different, unusual, new, ever-changing, fascinating, healthy, straight and strong, be articulated and communicative, be beautiful, bright, colorful, be self- confident and self- sufficient. Be independent.
Dandies are prime Bon Vivants and they notably have a story at the ready for everything. “Oh, this…?…” or “You’ll never guess what happened on my way to…”
Be obsessive about refined language, facts and obscure, wearying hobbies (especially those requiring lads, Dads or gladhands to assist)
Be a self-made person, live a magnified style of life regardless of background
an unmitigated lack of pretension
she was one “who gathered friends with the kind of passion others have for collecting stamps, art or butterflies.”
desire, energies, elements and people
When life gets grey, boring and stale, the bon vivants invent!
The Essence of Style: How the French Invented High Fashion, Fine Food, Chic Cafes, Style, Sophistication, and Glamour
Bon Vivant seducers whose sultry mix of the sacred and profane references hit the spot
Escape, claim or disdain your royal, exotic or mundane roots
Walk with Royal carriage or at least employ car service
Use make-up or facial expressions to make Eyes like Helena Blavatsky, who had ” large, luminous blue eyes whose strange spiritual expression fascinated all who came within her influence”
Reference immortal experience to create an age uncertain
Utter prophetic and seductive visions at uncanny times
Gather a curious mixed set of literary and artistic friends, Bohemians, visionaries, cranks and an occasional practical thinker from Wall street or the colleges
Be a conversationalist of rare magnetic power
Like Helena, be “an accomplished linguist, as most Russians are, “she spoke French, German, Italian, Spanish, Russian, Hindostanee and several Arabic dialects with ease and fluency”
Display a deep knowledge of the ancient and modern literature and philosophy of many lands
Enjoy robust dinners washed down by good wine
Cultivate odd, disarming wee habits, so as to humanize and have others feel superior over you, such as feigned incongruous insecurities or smoking Turkish cigarettes of a peculiar and excellent quality
Never be a Bore
the essence of an adventurous and refined playboy
Rubi was a likeable, charming guy. He was a really cool and fun chap.
Birds flying high you know how I feel
Sun in the sky you know how I feel
Reeds driftin on by you know how I feel
It’s a new dawn
It’s a new day
It’s a new life
For me
And I’m feeling good
Fish in the sea you know how I feel
River running free you know how I feel
Blossom in the tree you know how I feel
Dragonfly out in the sun you know what I mean, don’t you know
Butterflies all havin’ fun you know what I mean
Sleep in peace when day is done
That’s what I mean
And this old world is a new world
And a bold world
For me
Stars when you shine you know how I feel
Scent of the pine you know how I feel
Oh freedom is mine
And I know how I feel
Appreciate the finer things in life. Gradually change everything you have into finer things. Learn to recognize quality, and always choose quality over quantity. If you can't afford anything fine at the moment, have nothing. Be a bon vivant minimalist.
Refuse to eat and drink anything but the best. Be a gourmet not a gourmand. Don't overeat.
Refuse to experience and enjoy anything but the best
Learn to socialize with everyone.
Montesquiou encapsulated the romantic, literary and aesthetic excesses of his predecessors
Appreciate arts and culture. Learn to play at least one instrument well and learn to sing, learn to draw and paint, learn to dance, learn photography, read, become a movie connoisseur. Go to museums, exhibitions, art and culture events. educate yourself about these things.
Create yourself a perfect style. Have a capsule wardrobe of the best items, and then expand with the accessories. Always be perfectly dressed. Aim at elegance, style and class, but be unique and creative. Be stylish. Style isn't one thing, style is your thing.
Take the best care of your physique. Be well-groomed. See that you are always as polished as you possibly can, from top to toes. From hair to shoes.
See that your hair is clean, the dye is as it should be, the cut is good and the coiffure in order.
See that you clean your skin daily.
See that your teeth are clean and your breath nice.
See that your posture is good.
Exercise. Be fit.
Don't get fat.
Behave as if you were a great beauty or incredibly handsome - or more than mere beauty. You are unique and special, striking, extraordinary.
Learn to enhance what's good and if you can't hide your flaws, make them into what makes you extraordinary. Cultivate charm and radiance. Be alive, full of energy.
Cultivate your manners and etiquette. Always be the perfect gentleman or lady.
Don't use the subway if you can avoid it. Stay above ground, and enjoy the sunlight and day and nature and weather.
Be a philanthropist. Learn to love people and their stories. Everyone has a story.
It would be good if you knew how to ride, swim, play golf and tennis, and how to shoot.Basically, you should be able to do any sports with adequate skills and ease.
Look for novelty and excitement. Choose adventure. Collect experiences. Try everything. Do something scary every day.
Become a traveler. Learn to tell great anecdotes and travel stories. Read a lot of travel stories and learn from them. Have adventures when you travel and do unusual things. Don't do the things most people have on their bucketlists, don't visit the common tourist attractions, find the locals and ask to hang along and join them in things they do, à la Lonely Planet's Six Degrees
Become an epicurean.
Learn to tell jokes and stories. Become a raconteur.
"His conversations were usually long monologues filled with exotic anecdotes, mysterious allusions and obscure classical quotations, all told with a rich vocabulary."Read a lot. Read the classics. Read the 1000 books everyone should have read. Read the year's prize winners. All of them.
- Robert de Montesquiou
Read with paper and pen and write down good quotes and nice ways of saying things.
Improve your vocabulary.
Read essays, poetry, short stories.
Learn to speak in public.
Become a great host and a great guest - the life of the party.
Learn party tricks.
Learn to make things fun. Be inclusive and safe. Practical jokes might be fun - to the one who makes them - but they are seldom fun to the "victim" - which is obvious by the fact that the victim is often called just that - a victim. It is possible to have fun without anyone getting hurt or sad or feeling awkward and uncomfortable. Find out how and learn how to make that happen.
It helps if you learn to see the fun, the comical, the positive, the funny in every situation, and practice your observation skills.
Learn to inspire people.
Be trustworthy, inspire confidence. Never tell who the people are in your stories, to tell people they can trust you.
Be enthusiastic, instigate things, do things even if you were the only one doing it, join in, invite people.
Be positive. Be inclusive. Be glad, joyful, happy. Be Pollyanna. Don't criticize, don't evaluate, don't judge. There's quite enough of that in the world. Encourage, compliment, show interest and enthusiasm, find good sides in things, use stupid ideas as a springboard to something better and give others credit. People will soon learn that it's only with you things get a silver lining...
Have a never-say-die attitude. Be ambitious, aim high, and never surrender if you want to inspire people that they, too, can accomplish anything they set their mind to.
Don't be a egocentric pompous ass. Don't be better-than-thou or pretentious. Be equal, see and treat everyone as equals, with something to teach to you. Be respectful. Be interested.
gregarious, social, genial, outgoing, convivial, companionable, friendly, extroverted.
a lack of inhibition
a lively personality
his passion—and ability to communicate it.
those who live to hold court
penchant for escapism
strong appetites—for attention, alcohol, drugs or gambling.
aplomb, self-confidence, self-assurance, poise, self-possession, calmness, composure, collectedness, presence of mind, level-headedness, sangfroid, equilibrium, equanimity, nerve, nonchalance
cavalier, carefree, jaunty, aristocratic, free-spirited elegance, gallant
Lean and graceful as an Abyssinian cat
"She danced the Charleston with Josephine Baker in Paris and the foxtrot with the Duke of Windsor at El Morocco. Confident and high-spirited, she is said to have convinced Edward VIII to stand on his head and reveal what was beneath his kilt (long johns). On one occasion she seated her dog as a guest at a formal dinner party."
unconventional and capricious (I wonder how to express capricious so it's something positive? :-D
Not predictable, surprising, novel, excited, bubbly, whimsical... eccentric, changeable, coquettish, mischievous, like a fairy or sprite, flamboyant
pursuit of life,
the eclectic tastes
a social butterfly, socialite
The summer garden parties in his new home showcased his genius for entertaining, turning every gathering into a living tableau. The choice of flowers and colors for each occasion, the arrangement of music, the menus, and the careful selection of guests, gave him immense delight.
Could it be that anybody can charm the charmed society? Armed only with grand vision, a sense of generosity about oneself and others and seeking the best of the best?
"Society eats whatever is boring, injured, useless or dumb"
So be interesting, invulnerable and intelligent, be witty and funny, lively and different, unusual, new, ever-changing, fascinating, healthy, straight and strong, be articulated and communicative, be beautiful, bright, colorful, be self- confident and self- sufficient. Be independent.
Dandies are prime Bon Vivants and they notably have a story at the ready for everything. “Oh, this…?…” or “You’ll never guess what happened on my way to…”
Be obsessive about refined language, facts and obscure, wearying hobbies (especially those requiring lads, Dads or gladhands to assist)
Be a self-made person, live a magnified style of life regardless of background
an unmitigated lack of pretension
“Living proof that charm and experience will always matter more than Money.”
she was one “who gathered friends with the kind of passion others have for collecting stamps, art or butterflies.”
desire, energies, elements and people
When life gets grey, boring and stale, the bon vivants invent!
The Essence of Style: How the French Invented High Fashion, Fine Food, Chic Cafes, Style, Sophistication, and Glamour
Bon Vivant seducers whose sultry mix of the sacred and profane references hit the spot
Escape, claim or disdain your royal, exotic or mundane roots
Walk with Royal carriage or at least employ car service
Use make-up or facial expressions to make Eyes like Helena Blavatsky, who had ” large, luminous blue eyes whose strange spiritual expression fascinated all who came within her influence”
Reference immortal experience to create an age uncertain
Utter prophetic and seductive visions at uncanny times
Gather a curious mixed set of literary and artistic friends, Bohemians, visionaries, cranks and an occasional practical thinker from Wall street or the colleges
Be a conversationalist of rare magnetic power
Like Helena, be “an accomplished linguist, as most Russians are, “she spoke French, German, Italian, Spanish, Russian, Hindostanee and several Arabic dialects with ease and fluency”
Display a deep knowledge of the ancient and modern literature and philosophy of many lands
Enjoy robust dinners washed down by good wine
Cultivate odd, disarming wee habits, so as to humanize and have others feel superior over you, such as feigned incongruous insecurities or smoking Turkish cigarettes of a peculiar and excellent quality
Never be a Bore
the essence of an adventurous and refined playboy
Rubi was a likeable, charming guy. He was a really cool and fun chap.
Birds flying high you know how I feel
Sun in the sky you know how I feel
Reeds driftin on by you know how I feel
It’s a new dawn
It’s a new day
It’s a new life
For me
And I’m feeling good
Fish in the sea you know how I feel
River running free you know how I feel
Blossom in the tree you know how I feel
Dragonfly out in the sun you know what I mean, don’t you know
Butterflies all havin’ fun you know what I mean
Sleep in peace when day is done
That’s what I mean
And this old world is a new world
And a bold world
For me
Stars when you shine you know how I feel
Scent of the pine you know how I feel
Oh freedom is mine
And I know how I feel
Monday, May 1, 2017
Monday, March 20, 2017
Spring bucket list
seasonal bucket lists are one way of getting things done, easily, with not much bother
Here's 100 things to do this spring
Take the next step and customize the list to your purposes.
For example, if you have things like "lose weight" on your list, put your diet and exercise plan into this Spring bucket list - playing hopscotch is exercise, guerilla gardening could be exercise, if you plan to walk a couple of Ks while doing it. You can plan in testing a new restaurant, and going to cherry blossom watching, walking a couple of hours around your city, play a tourist and end it with a nice dinner in a new restaurant where you try out something you have never eaten before. A couple of days like that, and you'll get to tick a lot of goals off your list!
Here's 100 things to do this spring
Take the next step and customize the list to your purposes.
For example, if you have things like "lose weight" on your list, put your diet and exercise plan into this Spring bucket list - playing hopscotch is exercise, guerilla gardening could be exercise, if you plan to walk a couple of Ks while doing it. You can plan in testing a new restaurant, and going to cherry blossom watching, walking a couple of hours around your city, play a tourist and end it with a nice dinner in a new restaurant where you try out something you have never eaten before. A couple of days like that, and you'll get to tick a lot of goals off your list!
Friday, February 3, 2017
Please, don't
"Touch all
the 1,000 Buddhas in Hong Kong"
Er... I assume you mean 10.000 Buddhas
"Travel to the center of all religion, Jerusalem"
Going to Jerusalem is OK, calling it "the center of all religion" is not.
Why not?
Because 1/3 of world religions have no connection to Jerusalem.
"Watch a super-nova explosion"
Er... as it is now, we don't know when these things are going to happen. And when it happens we will see it a few months. Are you going to be up 24/7 until this happens and during it happens?
"Try every kind of beer in Germany"
There are approximately 1,300 breweries in Germany producing over 5,000 brands of beer, and that's just the German beer. Which means that if you try out one beer every night, you will be drinking beer the next 14 years. And they come up with new things all the time. Do you really want to spend the rest of your life drinking beer in Germany?
Or perhaps limit it a little, and say "try 100 different German beers during the Oktoberfest in Germany"
Or perhaps limit it a little, and say "try 100 different German beers during the Oktoberfest in Germany"
"Testify before the UN"
OMG, why?! Only people who have witnessed horrible things testify before the UN! Why would you want to witness horrible things, like genocide, gross human rights violations and such? WHY?
Wednesday, February 1, 2017
It's only impossible if you think it is...
The more Theremon thought about his chances of finding her, though, the less impossible the task seemed. And after a while it began to seem quite possible indeed.
As he endlessly reevaluated things, finding Siferra went from seeming impossible to merely unlikely, and from unlikely to difficult, and from difficult to challenging, and from challenging to feasible, and from feasible to readily achievable.
- Isaac Asimov; Nightfall
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