Tuesday, January 1, 2019

Mission Statement

We are the bucket list generation. We want to LIVE, not just exist until we die, we want to EXPERIENCE, we want to HAVE BEEN THERE, DONE THAT.

I assume we all have those moments of envy, longing, satisfaction, seeing or reading about someone doing something, when our whole being says "Yes! I want to do that!"
The first step for any dream to come true is to acknowledge you have that dream.

There's several sites and projects online to help people to make their dreams come true.
 A lot of that is about people reading others' lists and going "that sounds interesting, I want to do that, too!"

But that's just the first step. That doesn't take you much further from just wishing, wanting and dreaming. I have taken that step hundreds of times. My "to do" -list, "bucket list", "101 things in 1001 days" -list, "50 things before 50" -list; my List, is mile long. I need help to get from dreaming to doing.

I am not alone. Most people have these lists, and some of us actually manage to tick off things from our lists, but those are a minority.  Well... most of us manage to tick off a couple of things from the list, but as the lists are much longer than a couple of things, it doesn't make much difference. So, how did we manage to do those few things? What makes the people who actually can tick off things from their lists different from the rest of us? How can I become one of them?

This blog was created to record my journey from a dreamer to a doer, and I hope it will help others to realize their dreams as well, and becoming from a LIST generation to a LIVE generation.

Having a list of things is not going to do much. It just sits there, giving the impression of that I'm doing something to make my dreams come true, but that's not the case, is it? You aren't really DOING anything by writing bucket lists. Sure, it's the first step, and a necessary step (at least for most of us. :-D There are those who get an idea and start doing it right away.)

Not all dreams are equal. Not all dreams are true. Not all dreams are yours. You will find out what do you REALLY want with time. To begin with, write down everything you might want to try or do, without thinking about priorities, but as you work with your goals, the priorities will appear. You see, if it's important, you will find a way. You will make the time. You will do it. If not, you will find excuses. You will "forget". You will rather do other things.

So how ever much you "want" something, if you haven't find time to take ANY further steps to reach your goal within a year, scrap that "dream". It's not yours. It's not important to you.
I read somewhere... there was a writer or a musician, who was told once again, "I wish I could do what you do!", to which he/she responded: "No, you don't. If you did, you'd do." 
Maybe it's just the lifestyle you dream of. The power. The ability to change people's lives. I don't know. Find out what it is, and reach for THAT goal.

Some dreams are not realistically possible. At least not right now. Don't let that stop you from dreaming. Find out what would make the dream more realistic.

For example, the likelihood of me ever becoming a mother is very small.
I would have better changes if I was lighter and had more money.
I can lose weight and I can get money. If I REALLY want to become a mother, I'll lose the weight and get the money, and I'll get myself pregnant.
Apparently, as I am still overweight and penniless, I don't REALLY want to become a mother.
After all, I could start having one night stands, just to get pregnant, like millions of other women do, without needing to lose weight and get money. But I don't even do that.

Another dream I have is to visit space.
It's the same thing there. If I was 15, I could get myself in the army, learn to fly, become a pilot and seek for the space program of my country.
I'm not. So my only way of visiting space is either building a space rocket, or paying for the trip.
In both cases, it would be better if I was fit.
I'm not doing anything to become fit and rich enough to pay for the trip. Nor am I studying space engineering, or physics or rocket science, to be able to build a space rocket.

Some people dream about riding a flying unicorn...
Well... There are no flying unicorns. At least, if by that you mean an actual, living, breathing creature, very much like a horse with wings and a horn on the forehead.
It is possible to give a regular, ordinary horse a fake horn and wings, and it's possible to rent a helicopter, strap the horse under it, and then ride a "flying unicorn". It's just not advisable :-D
Or you could become an actor in a fantasy movie and appear to fly a unicorn.
So - what would be almost as good? Perhaps it would do to ride a real horse, with no horns or wings? Ride an ostrich (to have the feeling of a living, winged being under you and carrying you forth through the air... because even if the ostrich cannot fly, it can run pretty fast, and it might be the closest thing anyone of us ever gets to flying on the back of an animal.) Or get a motorcycle and name it "Flying Unicorn"... >:->

Some dreams need to be adjusted a little.

A lot of us don't really believe we are worthy our dreams. I know I don't. I am afraid of failure, I'm afraid of success and the consequences of that. I'm afraid of not being able to keep my promises to myself. I'm afraid of how my life will change. I'm afraid of a lot of things, and choose the instant gratification, comfort and "safety" in stead of taking the risk... even when the gain would be everything I've ever dreamed of, and the loss would be nothing... In most cases the worst thing that can happen is "no" - that is, nothing changes. I'd still be able to sit on my couch and write blog entries :-D Nevertheless, I don't dare to risk nothing to gain everything. (Not really "nothing" - it's a question of risking the comfort and instant gratification. And it would be absolutely horrible, not being able to sit and do "nothing much".... :-D)

Added 19/3-15: The Ultimate Bucket List Resource Guide

Sunday, June 17, 2018

35 hobbies for women

HerInterest published a post where they suggested 35 hobbies for women.

Yes, all sound interesting :-D

1. Writing
2. Reading
3. Dog Walking
4. Squash
5. Horse Riding
6. Watching Movies
7. Art
8. Cooking
9. Singing
10. Join a Band
11. Running
12. Swimming
13. Scrapbooking
14. Jewellery Making
15. Wine Tasting
16. Track Driving
17. Pole Dancing
18. Knitting
19. Gardening
20. Photography
21. Join a Book Club
22. Collect Things
23. Learn To Play An Instrument
24. Candle Making
25. Yoga
26. Volunteering
27. Gym
28. Online Games
29. Foraging
30. Caving
31. Host Board Game Parties
32. Chart Your Family Tree
33. Run a Side Business
34. Restoration
35. Go Travelling

So, I would suggest some other things.
1. Blogging
2. Languages
3. Animal training
4. Bouldering
5. Circus arts
6. Critiquing movies
7. Ink drawing, comics, cartoons, caricatures
8. Baking (go extreme... ;-))
9. Ballroom dancing
10. Martial arts
11. Carpentry
12. Diving
13. Bookbinding
14. Rollerderby
15. Brewing
16. Motorcycling
17. Biking (mountain bike, trick bike, even tour bike...)
18. Fine electronics - remember, all gadgets and machines are man-made. You can learn to make small machines and gadgets and learn to fix them... it's a great hobby!
19. Windowcill gardening - try growing your own coffee or bananas!
20. Film making
21. Speeches - join the Toastmasters
22. Origami
23. Paper engineering
24. Hiking
25. Hunting
26. Pottery
27. Acting
28. Divination - learn to read the cards or tea leaves
29. Cos-playing and maskmaking - why not learn to make wigs, too?
30. Miniature building
31. Calligraphy
32. Sailing
33. Community broadcasting
34. Rummaging carage sales, flea markets, trift stores,  and second hand stores
35. Classic cars - buy one and restore it. Or build one from scratch.

Here's some other suggestions:
27 hobbies for feminine women
(Yes, Brazilian Jiujitsu kind of feminine women :-D Nothing is as sexy as a healthy woman who can defend herself.)
40 hobbies for women
30 hobbies for women to help you relax and have fun
hobbies for women over 50

Sunday, March 18, 2018

I hate Woody Allen, but there are things to be learned

9 things I learned from Woody Allen

Now, I haven't seen that many Woody Allen movies.
I have seen Annie Hall. Hate it.
I have seen Zelig, but I was really young, so I don't remember much of it. I think I thought it was fascinating and weird.
Hannah and Her Sisters. Hate it.
Radio Days. I liked that one.
Everyone Says I Love You. Blah.
Vicky Cristina Barcelona. Hate it.
I mean, it's not many, but I expect his movies to be the same old same old.
Oh, I have seen Manhattan Murder Mystery, too, and I don't hate it.
Nevertheless, as three of the movies I absolutely hate are on his "best movies" lists everywhere, I have no reason to assume I will miss anything worthwhile if I never see another Woody Allen movie.

So when he left his wife for her daughter, a girl he first met as a 9 years old, in the role as her dad, and Dylan Farrow's story emerged... that was just more reason to not watch his movies.
Yes, I am seriously worried about their two adopted kids.

Nevertheless, there are things to be learned.

P.S. Cinecast: Woody and Woody talks about Woody Allen's movies, and they say one thing that makes sense. "Woody Allen's movies register as short stories" (or something like that). Yes. They do. 

Wednesday, January 17, 2018

Learn to throw ball

The truth is that boys throw better than girls.
It doesn't mean that I have to accept I throw like a girl. I can learn. I can get better.

Tuesday, January 16, 2018

Make a movie

write, direct, film, act in a movie, play all roles, create all props, costumes, special effects, compose the music, everything

Monday, January 15, 2018

Learn CPR and first aid

I think the best way to do this is to take a course by Red Cross

I basically know already all of this, but I feel a bit uncertain, so it doesn't harm to keep the skills up. 

Sunday, January 14, 2018