Mission Statement

We are the bucket list generation. We want to LIVE, not just exist until we die, we want to EXPERIENCE, we want to HAVE BEEN THERE, DONE THAT.

I assume we all have those moments of envy, longing, satisfaction, seeing or reading about someone doing something, when our whole being says "Yes! I want to do that!"
The first step for any dream to come true is to acknowledge you have that dream.

There's several sites and projects online to help people to make their dreams come true.

• Bucketlist
• Day Zero project
• my 50

 A lot of that is about people reading others' lists and going "that sounds interesting, I want to do that, too!"

But that's just the first step. That doesn't take you much further from just wishing, wanting and dreaming. I have taken that step hundreds of times. My "to do" -list, "bucket list", "101 things in 1001 days" -list, "50 things before 50" -list; my List, is mile long. I need help to get from dreaming to doing.

I am not alone. Most people have these lists, and some of us actually manage to tick off things from our lists, but those are a minority.  Well... most of us manage to tick off a couple of things from the list, but as the lists are much longer than a couple of things, it doesn't make much difference. So, how did we manage to do those few things? What makes the people who actually can tick off things from their lists different from the rest of us? How can I become one of them?

This blog was created to record my journey from a dreamer to a doer, and I hope it will help others to realize their dreams as well, and becoming from a LIST generation to a LIVE generation.

Having a list of things is not going to do much. It just sits there, giving the impression of that I'm doing something to make my dreams come true, but that's not the case, is it? You aren't really DOING anything by writing bucket lists. Sure, it's the first step, and a necessary step (at least for most of us. :-D There are those who get an idea and start doing it right away.)

Not all dreams are equal. Not all dreams are true. Not all dreams are yours. You will find out what do you REALLY want with time. To begin with, write down everything you might want to try or do, without thinking about priorities, but as you work with your goals, the priorities will appear. You see, if it's important, you will find a way. You will make the time. You will do it. If not, you will find excuses. You will "forget". You will rather do other things.

So how ever much you "want" something, if you haven't find time to take ANY further steps to reach your goal within a year, scrap that "dream". It's not yours. It's not important to you.
I read somewhere... there was a writer or a musician, who was told once again, "I wish I could do what you do!", to which he/she responded: "No, you don't. If you did, you'd do." 
Maybe it's just the lifestyle you dream of. The power. The ability to change people's lives. I don't know. Find out what it is, and reach for THAT goal.

Some dreams are not realistically possible. At least not right now. Don't let that stop you from dreaming. Find out what would make the dream more realistic.

For example, the likelihood of me ever becoming a mother is very small.
I would have better changes if I was lighter and had more money.
I can lose weight and I can get money. If I REALLY want to become a mother, I'll lose the weight and get the money, and I'll get myself pregnant.
Apparently, as I am still overweight and penniless, I don't REALLY want to become a mother.
After all, I could start having one night stands, just to get pregnant, like millions of other women do, without needing to lose weight and get money. But I don't even do that.

Another dream I have is to visit space.
It's the same thing there. If I was 15, I could get myself in the army, learn to fly, become a pilot and seek for the space program of my country.
I'm not. So my only way of visiting space is either building a space rocket, or paying for the trip.
In both cases, it would be better if I was fit.
I'm not doing anything to become fit and rich enough to pay for the trip. Nor am I studying space engineering, or physics or rocket science, to be able to build a space rocket.

Some people dream about riding a flying unicorn...
Well... There are no flying unicorns. At least, if by that you mean an actual, living, breathing creature, very much like a horse with wings and a horn on the forehead.
It is possible to give a regular, ordinary horse a fake horn and wings, and it's possible to rent a helicopter, strap the horse under it, and then ride a "flying unicorn". It's just not advisable :-D
Or you could become an actor in a fantasy movie and appear to fly a unicorn.
So - what would be almost as good? Perhaps it would do to ride a real horse, with no horns or wings? Ride an ostrich (to have the feeling of a living, winged being under you and carrying you forth through the air... because even if the ostrich cannot fly, it can run pretty fast, and it might be the closest thing anyone of us ever gets to flying on the back of an animal.) Or get a motorcycle and name it "Flying Unicorn"... >:->

Some dreams need to be adjusted a little.

A lot of us don't really believe we are worthy our dreams. I know I don't. I am afraid of failure, I'm afraid of success and the consequences of that. I'm afraid of not being able to keep my promises to myself. I'm afraid of how my life will change. I'm afraid of a lot of things, and choose the instant gratification, comfort and "safety" in stead of taking the risk... even when the gain would be everything I've ever dreamed of, and the loss would be nothing... In most cases the worst thing that can happen is "no" - that is, nothing changes. I'd still be able to sit on my couch and write blog entries :-D Nevertheless, I don't dare to risk nothing to gain everything. (Not really "nothing" - it's a question of risking the comfort and instant gratification. And it would be absolutely horrible, not being able to sit and do "nothing much".... :-D)

Added 19/3-15: The Ultimate Bucket List Resource Guide

Your brain doesn't distinguish "real" from imaginary

Does your brain distinguish real from imaginary?

This is why you can be implanted false memories. This is why eye witnesses aren't dependable. This is why people can experience something, get an explanation - how ever wild and unbelievable - and then believe they have really experienced that wild and unbelievable thing.

This is why a lot of people have a relationship with fictional characters from books, tv series and movies. This is why a lot of people think they know celebrities.

And this is why it is possible for people to train doing things they have never done. You can basically learn to play piano on a kitchen table or to play guitar by playing an air guitar. It might take some time to adjust the differences in what you imagined to what is real, but the principle works.
Most olympic winners say they spend a lot of time "imagining" performing perfectly and winning.

So - how can you use this when it comes to the bucket list?

When my niece was 10 she discovered Google Earth, and exclaimed "I don't need to travel there, because I AM there now!"
You can create yourself a false memory of having visited ANY place, from Egypt and Galapagos to hell, heaven and outer space.
If you just want the experience, your brain is fully satisfied with the fantasy. If you want the bragging rights, then you have to go there.
But "having been there before" does give you benefits. You are more prepared to the circumstances and can focus on the things you know to be important. On the other hand, there are things you cannot imagine... it's one thing to experience walking in Saigon and know the noise and heat and how many people there are, and totally different to experience the smells, how the land feels, the light, the atmosphere... but perhaps if you know to expect parts of the experience, you can better take in the parts you didn't expect.

This helps you learn anything, from languages and juggling to playing instruments and performing pullups. You can start learning tap dancing now, you don't need to wait for the shoes and classes and dance studio. You can start learning to play drums now, you don't need to wait for the drum set.

Go through your bucket list and write down a couple of suggestions how this could help you complete the goal. Then do it.

How to develop visualization skill

SERIOUSLY epic bucketlist - the next step

It's funny, I don't remember having read Steve Kamb's blog earlier, even though it's straight to my alley, my cup of tea...
(BTW, Steve Kamb is not a selfish, egocentric a-hole, he just keeps the humanist part for himself, which I think is a pity. Just saying that what follows has not much to do with Steve, and all to do with me. A lot of Bucketlist people are actually very generous and considerate people, and Steve is one of them. SO no hate on him!)

In the end of the list he is asking for suggestions on how to make his epic adventure even more epic.
I know how.

All of this is so focused on ME, and gathering experiences and doing epic stuff and the physical part of the life; being fit and having traveled the world and done all this high adrenaline adventure stuff.
What about the rest of the world?

Becoming a human and civil rights advocate. Working for peace and conflict resolution. Taking clean water to people. Saving rainforest, one tree at a time. Reforesting USA. Working to reverse extinction of species. Cleaning the ocean. Saving the Coral Reef and Arctic for future generations.

8 great heroes of human rights
14 Real Life Heroes Who Have Changed The World

National Geographic has "The Adventurer of the Year" award

There's Right Livelihood Award
Real Heroes
RFK Human Rights Award
UNEP Champion of the Earth

And there are so many little things one could do straight in one's own neighborhood.

Sharing Kindness

I mean... why not make the bucket list TRULY EPIC!

Commenting someone's bucket list - sarcasm and advice

I just went through another Big Achiever's list of over 2000 goals she has achieved.

I find that very inspiring. I, too, want to have thousands of goals I have achieved!

Now, there are some things that irritate me on the list, and some things I think are "cheating" - as if there was the One and Only Proper and Correct Way of creating bucket lists :-D

Nevertheless, there's quite a lot of things on the list that "I want to do, too!" and quite a lot of things that "I don't want to do that, but something similar..." - there are goals that make me consider my life, situation, likes and dreams.

1) Photography
- there are a couple of "30 days to better photography" on-line. Go through those lists to improve your photography
- then practice by taking one of those hundreds of "photography bucket lists" on-line, giving you a theme or subject to shoot every day of a month.
- you can have an album at Facebook with your photos, arranged in different themes, like "album with things that are yellow" or "metal" or "winter-y" or what ever you like.

2) One of the easiest things to do is food and drinks. You have to eat and drink... or not necessarily, but most people do eat and drink every day. So with a little effort, you can get quite a lot things done worth doing and bragging about ;-)

- there are dozens of lists online about things you should try, taste or eat/drink
- there are dozens of lists of specific food items, drinks, like cocktails etc.
- you can cook, bake and make anything, or learn to do that. Brewing your own wine is a very impressive skill, smoking your own hams and lox, baking your bread, making your condiments, jelly and jam, and all kinds of things. That you can do at home, without needing to travel or pay a lot for the equipment or ingredients.

 3) Books, movies, tv series, music
Another great bucket list fodder. Things to do, cheap, at home, things you can do NOW.
Try to challenge yourself. That's kind of the idea with Bucket List. :-)

Some things to add to this kind of lists:
- find out data about your favorite author, actor, director, screenwriter, composer, singer...

- try out the art; write a small "play", act, write a song, sing - perform your creation at YouTube. That gives you quite a different appreciation of the art.

- create a "complete experience".
Make some movie snacks that are somehow connected to the story. Try to find some candles or potpurri or something like that so that you have an "appropriate" smell in your nose as you watch the movie.  The taste and smell are the senses that are not touched in movies, but the more senses you bring in, the more perfect experience you have.
Another sense is touch - so try to find something that appeals to that sense... might be hard to do, but one suggestion is to stage the movie watching area as if you were arranging a theme party, even when it's only you watching the movie.
And try to collect 2-4 movies that "belong together". For example, same theme, same actors, same director, same setting. I feel I "get" more that way.
The same with books. Engage your senses; have some soft music in the background, some snacks, wear something that could be from the book, etc.
The same with music. LISTEN to it. Find out information about the lyrics, is there history behind the lyrics or the composition, what about the performers? How did their lives look at the time of the writing of the music, songs, albums. Read their biographies, if you can.

- Also, start writing "playlists". You know, "the best Christmas movies", "my exercise playlist", "Summer reading list". When you watch a movie, read a book or listen to music, try to come up with some events or holidays it might fit.
You know all those "100 best movies"... someone wrote the list. Someone like you. That someone has most likely a lot of experience, have seen many movies, listened many songs, read many books, but there is no other difference. So share your opinion with the world. Share your favorite movies with the world. There are bound to be people out here who agree with you, and who will benefit from your opinion.

4) Travel
- start saving for travels.
- educate yourself about languages (I'm Finnish. 99% of the world speaks different language to me :-D), places to visit, buildings and monuments to see, or natural phenomenon to experience, and learn to make itineraries, learn to pack wisely, learn different tricks and tips to make your traveling experience better etc. There is a lot you can do to prepare for the day you have managed to save enough money.
- improve your physical condition - get fit, so that you have the energy to walk and walk and walk which is quite a big part of traveling, and learn to take care of your feet.
- play tourist in your home town. That is actually a great way to prepare yourself for "real" traveling :-D
- get practice in writing travel journals, if that is what you wish.
- get better with your camera, if you want to take photos when you travel.
- plan your travel wardrobe and "test drive" it at home. :-)

5) What I would like you to do is use Pinterest. 

Collect all kinds of things you find beautiful, likable, attractive, inspiring, interesting, fun, all things you would like to do, or be able to do. 

Then look at it, and find out how you can learn to make those things. Everything is made by someone. 

If you love jewelry, learn to make it. Silversmithy is quite manageable to do at home, and there isn't much space and equipment required to cut and polish stones, or to make glass beads.

If you love glass, learn to make it. You can start with stained glass windows or lampwork glass beads, and continue to blowing and cutting glass.

If you love cabinets, learn to make them.

If you love swords, learn to make them.

If you love motorcycles - yes, you can learn to make them, too, and at first, you can learn to drive one. Then you can learn to fix it. Then you can learn to build them.

If you notice you are mostly pinning clothes, learn to sew and make accessories.

If you pin mostly traveling, exercising and outdoors activities, do more of those things.

There are no "one list fits all" lists. This is about what makes YOU happy. What YOU find fulfilling, fun and wonderful. Things YOU want to do, have always wanted to do, try, taste, experience.

Now, the whiny part - so if you don't want negativity in your life, stop reading!

Over 100 of those 2000 goals are duplicates.

Some of them are multiples; that is, mentioned several times but with different words or combinations.
Like "climb a tree", "climb a tree in ---" "climb a 10 feet tree" "climb a 100 feet tree" etc.
or "watch [movie]", "see [movie]" or "watch [list of movies which this movie is part of]"
I'm not too fond of that kind of goal counting. I feel it's cheating.

So - again, if you want to have a lot of goals on your list, list every movie you have ever seen, every book you have ever read, every place you have ever visited, every thing you have ever tasted, eaten, drank or cooked, AND find out lists where these things appear, so that you can complete lists with less things to do.

Another thing that I find irritating and not "worthy" of being on the list is different brands and labels.
"Visit this [tourist attraction] or that [amusement park]". "Buy all --- thingamajoys and gadgamathings". Collect 'em all!

Also, the lady in question has listed "become a minimalist and reduce your things" AND "have a huge collection of ---". Several things, actually, like cups, shot glasses, souvenirs and movies.
Well... the "100 things challenge" counts collections as one item >:->

Sex, drugs and rudeness...
Why would anyone want to do something stupid, mean, destructive, inconsiderate, illegal?

Why would anyone want to have "one night stand" on their "must do before I die" list? Have a quickie against a wall wearing a skirt and no underwear?
I really wish people would leave the sex in the relationship with one's SO.
(Why? Because it is better and safer that way. Quality over quantity.)

Also, this woman has "never smoke" together with experimenting with all kinds of drugs and being high and drunk in all kinds of combinations and doing things when drunk, high or both. Using coffee, alcohol, hash and cocaine but not tobacco sounds a little weird.

I wish people would keep their bucket lists "clean".
I wish people would find more kind things to do, more RAKs, helping people, smiling, sharing, donating, engaging in good things, productive, considerate, fun and lovely.

Bucket List Journal

I have this household binder, with all kinds of printable factsheets and fillable lists and such. I have a Sabbath binder with "holiday grand plan" printed, so that I just need to follow a ready-made, reasonable and manageable list to get the dream holidays I want.

I think I need a List binder,  with a page (or more) for each entry on the list I want to do, with a reasonable and manageable list of steps to take to reach the goal, and a deadline. A place to record the journey and see my progress.

I want to do it this way, because then I have something tangible, instead of just words on the screen. [I mean, sites are closed, computers break, data is lost - a binder is harder to lose and easier to access at any time, without electricity, even when a site is down for maintenance, and so on. ;-)] Having printed something on paper makes it somehow more important, more real. I think. But I'm a book lover, so I would think so :-D

There's also another thing... if those "The Secret" -people are right, creating a "dream board" creates a force that helps you reach the dream.

Also, there's statistics (the legendary "they" say) that shows that people have better chances of losing weight if they keep a journal. Those same "they" also say that "if you write down your goals you are more apt to complete them. Set a realistic weight loss goal and the date that you want to achieve this goal. Write down everything you need to do to achieve your goal. Then it becomes a plan and not just a goal."

So - let's have a dream journal. Or The List Journal.

Write a page in your Dream Binder for every dream you have, how ever big or small, how ever reasonable and rational, how ever possible.

Then you need to cut it into steps and put a date on it.

A dream written down with a date becomes a goal.
A goal broken down into steps becomes a plan.
A plan backed by action makes your dreams come true.

How to create S.M.A.R.T. goals:

SMART goals

To be able to keep a book on your achievements, you need to define your dreams and wishes. Make your wishes, goals SPECIFIC.
Write down
- what do I want to accomplish?
- why do I want to accomplish it?
- where do I want to accomplish it?
- when do I want to accomplish it?
- with whom do I want to accomplish it?
- with which limitations, requirements, equipment etc. do I need to accomplish it?

Make your goals MEASURABLE
- "get fit" is fine, but what does it mean? How do you measure fitness? Perhaps you wish to be able to perform certain fitness goals or get a certain result in a fitness test. Make it measurable, so you'll know when you have reached your goal.

Make your goals ATTAINABLE

Dreaming about impossible things is all nice and so, but feel unattainable and thus you won't even go for it. Sure, you might want to braid a mermaid's hair, but if you mean a real being that is half woman and half fish, that is probably not going to happen. Unless dreams count. So make your goal attainable.
What would be something real, attainable, possible, realistic, existing in this world that's close to this dream? Do you wish to braid Ariel's hair in Disney Land? Or perhaps go to some woman playing a mermaid? Or make a mermaid doll?

Or perhaps you think this isn't such a good idea after all, and decide to pursue something else in stead, something that is more realistic, more useful for your wellbeing and happiness, more useful for you to reach your other goals. But what do I know. One thing is for sure, it's only you who can say how serious your goals are. Something that might seem silly or stupid to me, might be the most important thing to you, and vice versa.

Also, some things are impossible TODAY TO YOU AS YOU ARE NOW, but you can learn, develop, evolve, grow, become more and better and adjust yourself to the requirements of the dream. Map your road in achievable steps. What is it you need to be able to do to be able to do something else?
For example, if I want to learn to drive a car, I get an instructor, sit in the car and drive slowly, slowly, in an area where I can't damage anyone nor the car. I get more and more used to driving, and soon I will be able to start driving among obstacles, then in slow traffic, then in heavy traffic, and while I get used to driving, I'm learning the traffic rules and training to control the car under difficult conditions, like ice on the road or rain or snow, and some basic car maintenance like filling the tank, changing the oil and tyres.
Now, I could start training to become a rally driver. Or start training driving lorries and buses and 18-wheelers and what ever there is.
So start small, take baby steps and take you to your goal step by step. Just like kids learn to run.

Make your goal RELEVANT

Do things that count. Do things that matter.

Bind your goal in TIME. Put a date on it. "Some day" never comes, neither does "tomorrow", "in the future", "one day" or "when I'm ..."
Another thing with TIME is that you can do anything 15 minutes a day. Do it for 15 minutes and then you can forget all about it until the next day and the next 15 minutes.
Or use the NaNoWriMo method and reach any goal working for it just one hour a day.

Some people add E.R. to this list. SMARTER. The E is ENJOYABLE and the R is REWARD or RE-EVALUATE (Practically the same thing. Keep an eye on what you have actually DONE and achieved. That in itself is a reward, it tells you you are not a lazy bum, you DO things, you REACH goals, YOU ARE MAKING YOUR DREAMS COME TRUE!)

This is from TipJunkie

There are free printable project planner pages. I'm not too fond of them, just because they are printable, and full of prewritten text that is not relevant to me. I would like you to take a look at them and write down questions that are important to you, and then write each project page for itself, not fill in some form.

Important things to me are:
- what is it
- due date / schedule
- steps
- necessary equipment, tools, materials
- necessary contacts, people
- ideas, inspiration (sort of dream board)
- notes (things to remember, to consider, to check, to plan)

Importance of preparations

It's not enough to have a list.
It's not enough to SMART the list.
It's not enough to have the determination and will to get you through the list.
You need to prepare.

For example:

I have been trying to get myself out and walking for the last month.
There have been days when I think it would be nice, but decided not to, simply because the threshold was elevated by the fact that I hadn't prepared.
I am a lazy bum, so I need to have all the things I need in order.

I need to have my telephone and bluetooth unit charged.
I need to have my telephone, bluetooth unit and earphones ready.
I need to have the clothes I'm planning to use prepared, from sportsbra to good shoes.
Everything needs to be clean.
I also need to have something I can have over the clothes, if it's rainy or cold.
If it had been easy, just to get into the clothes, take my MP3 player and go, I would have gone.
When I needed to wait for the phone to charge and couldn't find my socks, I didn't go.

The same with everything else.
If you plan to yoga every morning, you need to have a place to yoga prepared, and the clothes you plan wearing.
If you plan to learn to play a guitar, you need a guitar that is stringed and tuned, and what ever material you plan to use to learn from, ready.
If you plan to watch a movie, you need to have a copy of that movie, and necessary equipment to watch that copy.
If you want to make a piece of art every day, you need your paper, pens, brushes, paint, what ever it is you plan to paint/draw and the necessary equipment.

It's much easier to get something done, when you have everything you need to do it with readily available.

These are Thirty-One organizing totes. 

The company creates them in different sizes, patterns and colors

and you can order them with embroidery.

I suggest you collect all the equipment, tools and materials for your project

in one box or bag or tote or caddy

to make it easier to get doing things.

How to compose your list

A bucket list is a list of things YOU WANT TO DO.
The idea of having 10, 100 or 10.000 is that there are that much things to do, experience, live, learn, see, hear, taste, feel, smell in the world that are pleasurable, enjoyable, lovable, likable... worth to experience. 

Bucket List is not a competition. It's a promise. It's personal.  It's something that doesn't need to have any importance for anyone but you, or any meaning, but it should have both importance and meaning to you. There are no "places you must see, things you should do", just places and things. Totally yours to pick and choose from.

If there were no obstacles; you have all the money you need, all the equipment, all the health and energy and capacity, what would you do? If you weren't afraid of anything...

Think back to when you were a kid. What did you want to do when you grow up?

Whom do you envy?  Start carrying a small notebook with you where you write every time you feel the envy or longing inside you when you see, read or hear about someone doing something or getting something or experiencing something.

Look at these different areas of your life and imagine how a life would be, look, if it was "perfect". How do the people live you wish you were like? What do they do? What do they have in their lives?

Self improvement is often a big thing in bucket lists, even when it's really not part of this. It's kind of assumed that we all continue to grow and learn as long as we live.

Money, economy and financial goals and wishes.

Sensory experiences. Foods you'd like to taste, music you'd like to hear... 
Are there some concerts you'd like to attend?
Any shows / performances you'd like to see?
Any events you'd want to witness? From birth of a foal to space rocket launch.
Festivals and happenings? "I was there doing that then..."?

You win the lottery of the century and get so much money you can't even count that much. Money is NEVER EVER going to be any problem to you. What do you do?
What would you do if you won million dollars?

How about relationships? Family, parents, siblings, children; other relatives? Friends? Neighbors? Community? Colleagues? 
How about love and romance?

How do you want your home life to look? Where do you live? How is your home decorated? Do you live on the road?

Would you like to learn to cook or bake, or perhaps brew your own beer or something?

Do you want to simplify your life, organize and declutter? Or perhaps get a collection like Jay Walker or Alex Jordan?

You happen to rub something in an antique store, and a genie appears. The genie gives you three wishes. What do you wish?

Fun and games? Hobbies?

What would you create? Food? Art? Stories? Crafted items? 

What would be an adventure to you?
What would be an experience to be proud of?
What experience would be thrilling?
What would you want to experience if you knew no-one else would ever know...? (You don't even need to publish those wishes... just try to find a way to do it...)
Witnessing what would make you happy just remembering it?

Imagine you received an anonymous letter to your birthday.
You open the letter and read that you happen to share a birthday with an eccentric billionaire and have been chosen among all who were born the same day you were born to receive a gift, an amazing experience, mind-blowing, fantastic, a dream come true!
What is it?

Health and fitness?

Physical goals are also a biggie in the world of bucket lists. A lot of people would like to run a marathon, for example.

Travel is the #1 theme of bucket lists. Where would you travel, if money wasn't an issue? (Or anything, like the bother of traveling, hygiene, food, sickness, political situation...) What would you like to see? Which festivals and street parties would you like to have been part of?
Are there some historical places you'd want to see because the event was important to you?
Are there any places you'd like to see because of a family connection?

How about classes and courses, education, learning new things and skills?

Are there any animals or plants or geological formations or natural phenomenon you'd like to see?

Do you have any career wishes? Status wishes?
Highschool reunion. You are exactly what you want to be. What and who are you? Rich? Beautiful? Successful? In your dream profession? In a dream relationship? Good and kind? Active? Passive? What?

So - another visualizing exercise... Close your eyes and relax...
You are happy, relaxed, enthusiastic... you are smiling, and have no what so ever negative feelings or thoughts. It doesn't matter what others think. It doesn't matter if others like it. 
What are you doing? Reading? Painting? Gardening? Cooking? Playing with your pet?

How about spirituality?

What would be meaningful and important? Who are your heroes? Whom do you look up to? Gandhi? MLK? Princess Diana? Mother Theresa? Who in the world history has done something extraordinary, heroic, important, powerful and amazing, and what is that they did?

Would you like to donate and volunteer and share caring and kindness in your community or in the world?
Are there any injustices and problems you would like to straighten, and what could you do about them?

How do you see the future and what can you do today to prepare for that future?

Are there any sports you'd like to try?

Who are your ideals and role models? Whom would you like to meet? With whom would you like to talk?

What could you do to be more like them?

Imagine you are a grandparent and tell stories of your life to your grandchildren. They look up to you, expectant, excited, and they sure have reason to, because you have had some experiences... you have lived... you have stories to tell!
What are they?

So, what are you afraid of? Write down 10 things you consider would be the "worst things possible", and... face your fears. Create yourself a 12 steps' program to follow so that in a year you are less scared of those things. Think if you were participating in Fear Factory... what would you meet that would stop you? Don't let it...

What dreams would you like to see come true?
What skills would you like to acquire?
What hobbies would you like to pursue?
What accomplishments would you like to achieve?
What fantasies would you like to act out?
What things have you seen other people do or accomplish and you thought, “Wow, that’s pretty cool! I’d love to do that!”?
What achieved challenges would give you the biggest confidence boost?
Are there things you would really, really like to be good at, but you doubt your capacity to do so? Go for it...

What if you were to die in a year? What would you do the last 12 months of your life?
If you have lost someone, what do you wish e had done before e died? How do you wish e had spend the last 12 months of e's life?

If you woke up tomorrow and didn't know anything about yourself, what would you like to find out?

What are you putting forward to tomorrow, or "when you have time" or "when you take the vacation" or "when you are retired"? Are you saving something for "that special day"? That special day is today. Perhaps tomorrow, if you are reading this on an afternoon or evening :-D

What do you regret? It's never too late. Not even if you regret not participating in the Olympics...

What would you want people to say at your funeral?

Read this article: How to Turn Goals into Strategies. It's actually wrongly named, as it's about the exact opposite - how to turn strategies into goals. It asks the very important question. What is it you wish to reach with the goal? How do you think you'd feel the day when you reach the goal?

"Get married" might actually mean "find someone who loves me for the rest of my life and share my life with him/her". Getting married is easy. Staying married and loving your spouse as your best friend, your confidant, your favorite companion, your support and comfort, that's difficult.

"Get fit" might actually mean "have energy to do all the things you want to do". Or "get sincere compliments for my looks and believe them", or "get small enough to buy the clothes I want".

I also recomment the following articles at DaVinci Dilemma - even if you don't consider yourself "multitalented"
How to take inventory of your talents
Stumped Talents - poll the audience
Make your mess your message

Have 100/1000/10000 goals on my list

This is also a goal that can be achieved quickly and right now, without any money, friends or special equipment.

There is an easy way of doing this (sort of cheating) and the proper way of doing this

The easy way:

- find as many lists you can and copy them

- find long lists, like 1000 movies to see in your lifetime or 1000 best books, and make each item an individual entry.

- There are tons of movie related lists online. 20 films of dogs, zombies, feminist movies, all the movies with "red" in the title, French movies, Spanish movies, Azerbaijani movies... and new ones are being made all the time

- post the same goal several times

- say it using different words and different spelling

- find lists with many shared items, so that you can check off an item from multiple lists

- try to find out as many possible "goals" you can from everything you do. Like "meet --- / have a photo taken with --- / shake ---'s hand / get ---'s autograph" That's already four goals. And you can multiply these four goals with as many people as you like. Celebrities, actors, authors, musicians, politicians, Santa Claus, Easter Bunny...

- Take a cook book and start from the beginning: "Cook ---" There is 4.500 recipes in Joy of Cooking. You can also add "cook every recipe from a cook book" to your list.

- Find out every food ingredient on earth and add it to your bucket list as "eat --- / try --- / taste ---"

- add all the possible surveys on-line. Write your own 5000 questions list.

- List things. "My favorite bands, books, movies, tv series, colors, hair ornaments, shoes, labels, foods..."

- collections. "Have 10/20/25/50/75/100/200/300 ---" and add any number

- own/have/buy/try/get (every item of a certain label / merchandise /what ever)

- use the same idea to generate goals when it comes to other things.
"See/watch/experience/be awake at sunrise /with ---(best friend, boyfriend, mother, cousin, namesake, whoever)/ in (all the places you wish to visit)/ on (rooftop, hill, tree, ocean, what ever) / naked, dressed in ---, dressed as ---"

- "celebrate ---" There's an ocean of "national day of ---" and other such observances and celebrations. Write each and every one on your list as a specific goal

- to get more, elaborate each of these. "Celebrate the pig in blanket day / wrapped in a blanket / eating pigs in blanket / you have made yourself / watching movies about pigs-in-blanket / in what ever place fits the idea."

- anniversaries - there are more themed wedding anniversaries than silver and gold wedding. There's a theme for every year from 1-50, 55th, 60th, 65th, 67th, 75th, 80th, 85th, 90th and 100th. And nothing stops you from creating anniversaries for ANYTHING that has happened or that you wish to happen to you and theme them accordingly, and celebrate them.

- drive (any vehicle/transportation method)

- ride (anything that can be ridden)

- visit all the amusement parks, carnivals, theme parks etc on earth and list every attraction as one goal.

- make a cover of all the songs / learn to play all the songs by any instrument invented

- learn to play any instrument

- play any game invented / invent a game - list them individually and in groups, as many as you can come up with

- visit every country, every continent, every capital

- write a list of all the restaurants in your home town, and the closest bigger cities, if you don't live in one with many restaurants

- learn every language / learn to say something in any language. There are as many words and sentences as you care to add to your bucket list...

- learn things by heart. 10 poems, 10 bible verses, 10 foreign words... and  variate the number.

- visit every lighthouse, hotel, restaurant, national park, temple and church...

- 1) get a camera
2) learn to use the camera
3) start taking photos
4) have a "photo album of ..." All blue things, purple things, white things, trees, hearts, stars, skulls, Autumn, Winter, Spring and Summer, flowers, animals, pets, hands, numbers, letters, things that start with a letter, things in pairs, threes, fours, fives... just go to Pinterest to get ideas of what kind of "photo albums" you could have.
You can choose to have these photo albums on-line or print out the photos and have real photo albums.
This list is never-ending. There are all kinds of photography challenges and lists online. Fodder...

The proper way

30 things you can tick off your bucketlist right away

There are several free things people can do, right now, without needing to wait for anything, without needing to learn anything, without needing any equipment, friends or money.

1. You can start learning languages right now.

2. To learn to play an instrument, you'll need the instrument. Instruments are not especially cheap...

But you can make your own instrument.
Complete the DIY Instrument Maker challenge. Make simple kiddie instruments. Those things can be used to create surprisingly complex music... don't underestimate them.

Also, you can start training trumming using things like pots and pans and cardboard boxes and tabletops.

Learn to whistle. Learn to whistle really loud. Learn to whistle using fingers and without. All you need is lips. :-D

Learn to play a comb. Or a strip of paper. Or leaf of grass.

Make a willow whistle. Or a reed whistle. Or what ever.

Costs nothing, most people have already all the necessary equipment, doesn't require friends.

3. You want to learn to drive? Fly?
Great.

1) Find out where and how and how much will it cost. Start saving. Find out the requirements and start training to fill those requirements.

2) Start learning things like traffic rules and safety considerations and mechanics and maintenance of the vehicle you wish to learn to drive.
Know how a car engine looks.
Know how to change the tires.
Know how to fill the tank.
Go to the closest gas station and ask the people there if they could show you how that's done.
Learn the theory.
A lot of that information is freely available online, a lot of more information is in the library. Both free.

Also, think back in time when there were no aeroplanes and motorcycles - not even bicycles - and cars... someone invented all those things. It is fully possible to build your own car or airplane. Some people start with miniature versions, and build soapbox cars and bottle rockets and model airplanes. That's not a bad hobby for someone who wishes to learn to control motorized vehicles...
It also comes with other benefits, like making new friends, getting friends all over the planet, getting a reason to go to places and do things... and as you start small, the costs are pretty small as well.
Also, soapbox car derby is really fun.

Another thing to do:
Find out when the next classic car meeting is in your area or close-by.
Find out where the closest classic car owner in your area is.
Befriend him/her.
Ask how you could be part of the meeting, how you could pay for your part, like seeing that you are appropriately dressed. Like bringing the picnic.
Get the required skills to see that you can meet the demand. Anyone can learn to sew. Anyone can learn to make costumes. Anyone can learn to cook and prepare a great picnic basket.
Ask him/her to teach you about the car, mechanics, maintenance and other such things.
When the day arrives, go and enjoy your time.

5. Learn card games

6. Learn card tricks or coin tricks

7. Learn to use both your hands equally well. Or almost equally. Learn to use your feet as well as your hands.
During the previous centuries people believed that lefties were under devil's influence, and that's why people were forced to learn to use their non-dominant hand. And that's really all it takes.

8. Go out and speak with 10 strangers.
Go and talk with people who have it harder than you.
Do the 100 strangers project. All you need is a camera. Any camera will do. One can get pretty cheap digital ones. Frankly, the one in your mobile phone is good enough. You could also get "take a photo every day for a year" completed. Do a 365 strangers project :-D

9. Live, not just exist
Classical Hindu thought accepts four proper goals or aims of human life: dharma, artha, kama and moksha.
Dharma is righteousness, ethics.
Artha is livelihood, wealth
Kama is sensual pleasure.
Moksha is sort of nirvana. Liberation of the cycle of life. In the psychological sense, moksha connotes freedom, self-realization and self-knowledge.

Now... what could you do right now to take a step to these goals? None of them requires money, equipment, classes or friends.
Think about it.

For example, dharma could be RAK
Artha - create a budget and start saving
Kama - use your senses. Mindfulness. It's not just sex. It's all things that give us pleasure, like beauty, good food, poetry. Enjoy beauty and pleasures with all your senses. Get some Epicureanism in your life. Everyone feels better. And as we live in an amazingly beautiful world, there's free beauty available for everyone, all the time.

10. Learn to throw a ball really well. Costs only a tennis ball.
There's also a lot of ball games one can do alone, and require nothing but the ball. All the information needed is free on-line.
Make a sling and learn to use that really well.
What about learning to juggle? That's also almost free - you only need three oranges, or some balloons and rice, and you are good to go. You don't need any nice, professional juggling equipment to learn.

11. Learn parkour
Start with learning to fall safely.

12. Give to charity. Donate. Volunteer. 

13. Joining a gym is one of the most regretted things to put on your bucket list.  It's just waste of money, unless you have a training routine in place. It's better to get that training routine.
Do the 100 push-ups challenge. Totally free.
Do the C5K challenge. That only requires running shoes.
Do the 20 pull-ups challenge. Totally free that too.
Take any of the free fitness challenges online and stick to it for a month before even thinking about joining a gym. Better yet, stick to it for a year. 

14. Start walking

15. Take the 100 species challenge. Or any other of these dozens of free nature observation thingies. Learn to forage. Play in water, snow, leafs, sand... Learn to make dorodangos. Or just go out in the nature and enjoy it. Nature is beautiful. Wonderful. Delightful. Lovely. Peaceful, calming, serenity inducing.

16. Find about the free events in your town/neighborhood, and go.
Or even better, volunteer to work at an event. You'll get to the "backstage" and you might even get paid!
Anyone with money can go to a concert or a convent. Having actually WORKED on one is much cooler, rarer and cheaper.

18. Learn to sing.
Amira Willighagen went viral after singing opera in Holland's got talent, and she learned by imitating opera singers online, youtube videos. If she can, you can.
There are also a lot of "how to" videos on singing, like heavy metal screaming and using your falsetto voice. Or beatboxing. You could try to copy Michael Winslow.
Totally free.

19. Learn to dance anything you want. There's resources online, if you just bother finding them. Learn to dance samba and start saving for a ticket to Rio. Next Mardi Gras! Yay! Or dance tango in Argentina!

20. "see the sunrise and sunset of the same day"

21. Learn about your family tree.
Talk with your elder relatives. Record their stories. Check what things they have done you would like to add to your bucket list. Most of those were probably free.

22. Cook a new recipe.
Try a free recipe online. Most recipes are online.
If you want to cook a recipe from a cookbook, don't go and buy a new one, those are too main stream. Go to a used books store and buy yourself a cookbook from 70s or 40s or 19th century and try those recipes. Much more fun and original. And cheaper.
Or you could go to your closest relatives (older than 40) and ask them to teach you to cook.
Remember that both Nigella Lawson and Delia Smith are self-taught...

23. Climb rocks, trees and fences around you. Doesn't cost a thing, no equipment needed, and no rock-climbing wall needed. You know those don't grow in trees. Like climbing trees do... ;-)

24. Get a friend. Get a girl/boyfriend. Get married.
Get hobbies. Talk to people. Talk with people. Ask someone you like out for a real date. Really scary. You could also check out the "do something scary every day" from your list.
Learn to talk with people. Have a goal to talk to a stranger every day.

25. Get a tarot card reading
Go here: http://www.tarot-live.com/tarot_start.php (or any other free tarot reading online site. There's tons) and fill in the questionnaire, push a button, and, voilà, you're done!
Yes, it counts.
Yes, it's as much information as most tarot readings.
Yes, it's just as accurate.
Doesn't cost anything and you can do it every dang day if you want to.
There are also other oracles and divination methods available, if you want to check out some other ways of reading your future. There's even the magic 8 ball.

26. Write Out A Monthly Budget To Stick To - Start saving money
If you make a functional, realistic budget and stick to it, you will be able to check out "get debt free" from your list, too, and get all the money you'll need to complete all the other goals from your list, like traveling etc.
(The secret of getting rich is not the ability to make a lot of money, but the ability to NOT USE a lot of money. Most millionaires have very humble lifestyles. They also can afford to buy "real shit" and not the cheap stuff that doesn't last. So they can manage with one pair of shoes their whole life...)

27. Early to bed, early up.
Also, "stay awake 24 hours" is a goal quite a lot of people have on their bucket list.
"Sleep only 4-5 hours a night" is another one.
None of these goals require any specific equipment or money or friends to complete.

28. Read books. Libraries still exist.

29. Watch movies. Watch tv series.
I mean... come on. We all know you can watch movies and tv-series for free online if you just bother a bit. Sure, the copyright watchers are hunting and shutting down these sites as we speak, closing accounts, and such, but they always pop up somewhere else.

30. Week without television, mobile phone, internet, using only stairs... abstinence is great, because it's totally free!

*bonus :-)
Celebrate special days. Frankly, the only thing necessary is the intention.

Reinventing the bucket list

I, like most other people, want to do BIG things; travel, hike, run marathons and climb Mount Everest.
I, unlike most other people, am sick.

So - how to create a bucket list when one is bedridden?

The important question is: "what CAN you do? How much is realistically possible?"

I will assume that a person is more or less confided in the apartment, bed and perhaps a little more movement on good days.

I. Traveling without ever leaving home

It is impossible to create the experience without physically being there. But it is possible to create a virtual reality experience.

Find travel documentaries on DVD or on-line about the place you wish to travel to.
Read travel guides.
Watch movies that are situated in the place in question. Read books about the place

Try to recreate the sensory experience.

Study the cuisine of the area and cook - or have someone cook for you, if you can't cook.
Try the specific spices, fruits and vegetables and drinks of the culture. Try the candy.
Now-a-days almost everything can be reached in most places.

Listen to a local radio channel.
Read about the animal life of the area, and try to find recordings of these animals' sounds.
Find out how the weather is, and try to recreate it.

Find out about the smells and scents of the place. That has a very strong impact.
I will always remember the air in Israel, fruity, spicy,  sweet and fragrant... I made Roly-Poly one Chanukkah, and that smelled exactly like the air of Israel...
If you can't find out about things like that, burn some incense or scented candles that strengthen the idea you have about the place.
Try to find flowers that grow naturally in the area, spices and fruits. Those are usually most pleasant scents of the area. You don't need to recreate the heavy smell of rottening vegetation before Monsoon... ;-)

Decorate your bedroom in a way that leads thought to the culture in question. It's not very expensive to have some fabrics, cushions and plaids, and pictures.

Learn the language. You can take any time you like, and you don't need to get more fluent than able to read and understand. Then you will have larger selection of reading material. You can read blogs, news, popular books and magazines from the area.

One thing to remember here is that it's totally OK to go overboard and create a false illusion of the country, the same way St.Patrick's Day celebration caricaturizates the Irish culture, or how Orientalism and Japonism presented an impression that made Princess Soraya of Persia to say that Yves Saint Laurent's fashion was "too oriental" for her... This is for your own pleasure and satisfaction.
You might not have walked the Great Wall of China, but you have experienced China as well as most people will ever do. You can also be proud of the fact that your traveling hasn't teared any resources...

You can order handmade items through internet from all over the world, to get "souvenirs", or learn to make these crafts yourself.

You can print t-shirts and make food gifts to give to your friends as memento from your trip. :-)

I also suggest you give yourself a nice, comfortable pajamas and/or robe, nightgown, lounge wear, with folklore embroidery or other decoration that makes you think of the country.

The wonderful thing about traveling without leaving your home, is that you can travel ANYWHERE and ANY TIME... you can go back in history or outside this galaxy on your travels...

And you can make scrapbooks of your travels.
Either as some sort of notebooks of what you learned and experienced, a bit like a geography lapbook, but you could also take the... illusion even further, and use photos other people have taken as if they were yours.  It's possible to Photoshop yourself anywhere with anyone at any point of time... and most people don't take photos of themselves anyway. They just photograph the environment, the sights, the nature and buildings and monuments. After you're gone, no-one will know who took the photos. No-one need to know you never left your home.

2. Physical achievements

Well... it might not be sensible to think about running a marathon, but there are things you can do.
There is exercise programs designed for people who can't move much. You exercise the part of you that you can move.

I have fibromyalgia, which is a sort of neural inflammation. It means I'm in pain most of the time, if not all of the time, I am tired and grumpy and feel sick. There are days I can't walk. There are days I can run. I can do yoga every day, even the days I'm aching. I'm not talking about power yoga, I'm talking about calm, gentle stretching. Maybe it would be better to call it that, as yoga has some negative connotations to some people. Most people can manage light stretching, even if they can't do it themselves. I do hope, that if you are in that situation, you have someone who can help you stretch a little.
Also, it would be good, if you could take a walk outside and get some sunlight in the middle of the day. Just take a calm stroll around the quarter or to the mailbox and back home. What you can do.
It is quite possible that 100 meters IS as demanding to you as a marathon is for someone who runs.
Remember to compare only to yourself and remember to be kind to yourself.

3. Be happy

Do every day something that makes you happy.

Start reducing your property. It's easier to keep your home tidy and comfortable when you have less to clean. The cleaner your home is, the easier it is to live in it.
You should really consider the 100 items challenge.
There are several suggestions to a capsule wardrobe that will take you through the year and keep you well dressed for any occasion.
Put the books you have to circulation and let others have as much joy of them as you did.
Reduce your things, decorations etc.
Keep only a mantelpiece or wall of photos of people who are important and dear to you.
Have one or two collections on show, if you like collections.
Other than that... the less you have, the more time you have to do things you enjoy doing.

Now, of course, if you find solace and comfort from things, you should keep things. I myself am in love with my library and I'm proud of it. I know nothing better than to cuddle in a comfy seat with a soft blankie, big cup of hot tea, a good book and a purring cat.
If you are that kind of a person, you should do more of that, and invest in "to read" bucket lists.
Perhaps "to write", as well.
People have written books slowly, just a couple of words at a time. Most people can do it.

Learn to know yourself if you don't know if you would feel better with less or in a burrow of your "things". (No, I'm not talking about hoarding. Hoarding is collecting things without even knowing what you have. Burrowing with "things" means you know exactly what you have, why and where, and are able to find any item at any moment, every thing has its place and every thing is in its place. Your "things" are not just any junk, they are important and meaningful frame to you and your life.)
Be satisfied with who you are. Love yourself. Be comfortable by yourself.

Drop all the "lose weight" "eat healthy" and "have a bikini body" from your list. Focus on joy and pleasure, and being satisfied with what you have.
Get a big mirror and sit in front of it and look at yourself. Really LOOK and SEE yourself. Go through your body and tell yourself what you would WANT to hear. Thank your body for having worked so hard to support you through all these years. Thank your skin for being there. Know that your skin is your body's biggest organ and it's working hard.
All the ideas of that you "should look" this or that to be good enough are pure bull. Every human being is different. Not even models and USonian actresses are alike. You are in perfect shape to be you. If you do what you love doings, live your life as YOU think it should be lived, enjoy life and all its treasures as you please, your body will be a perfect fit for such a life.

All people don't like exercise. Some people do. Why should every body look as if the person inside loved exercise?
Some people love to cook. Some people love to cook and eat and bake and feed others, and I think they should look like they love food, too. "Never trust a skinny cook" someone said.
Some people love to read and watch movies and stay inside 24/7. Why should they look like they love exercise?
And looking "healthy"? Why should I look healthy when I'm not? And whose idea of "healthy" is it? All the people in the world look different. Why is one look "better" and more desirable than another? I can understand that people look at looks when it comes to choosing a spouse. Most people choose a person who looks like their mother or father or a person who had that role in their lives. The beauty is truly in the eye of the beholder. And it's not even very important. Choosing a spouse, things like preferences, opinions, values and attitudes mean so much more than looks. I would much rather have a kind husband who loves me, than a handsome husband who loves only himself. An ugly and loyal husband rather than a beautiful cheat. Besides, I'm not such a beauty myself... I would feel even uglier by a handsome man. Most people look plain.
Bah.
So - forget the beauty ideals and numbers on scales, and focus on things that mean something.

In a dating book from 80s, the author gives some good advice.

1) People are what they see
- focus on the beautiful, the good, the valuable and the nice. How you see the world reflects from you. Happy people are prettier than angry people. People are nicer to smiling people who think nice things. That's why everyone loves lovers.

2) People are what they hear
- Only listen to nice things, praise, kind words, positive remarks, stories of joy and beauty. Listen to hopeful stories, stories that move you, stories that make you smile and laugh. Listen to truth and lovely dreams. Listen to encouragement, support, comfort and enthusiasm.

3) People are what they speak
Try not to add more ugliness and misery to the world. Let your every word be kind and positive.
Talk kindly to yourself and of yourself, too. There are no angels of modesty and hubris who will strike you down if you say "I'm feeling fine, thank you!""I'm doing fine!" "I'm happy!" "I love..."
"I want" in stead of "I would like", "I will" in stead of "I wish". "I'd love to!" in stead of "I have to", "I do" in stead of "I'll try..." "That sounds so interesting, exciting, lovely, wonderful!" "Perfect!"
Say "The food was delicious, the show was wonderful, I had such a lovely time!" Don't try to diminish the value of your pleasure by using words like "terribly" or "unbelievable".
Laugh as much as you can. Read funny books, watch funny movies, read jokes and cartoons, tell funny stories... learn to tell jokes well and practice often. Try to make someone else laugh every day, as well as yourself.

4) People are what they think
The kinder you think about people around you, the kinder you appear to be. Be kind, compassionate, loving and caring, and you attract kind, compassionate, loving and caring people around you, and you inspire the kindness, compassion, love and care of everyone you meet..

Surround yourself with all the beauty, goodness, loveliness and wonderfulness you only can must. Always choose pleasure.

Eat dessert if you like dessert. Eat food that is beautiful, smells delicious, tastes good and make you feel good. Eat as much as feels pleasurable. A lot of times we eat too much because we have decided to eat a lot, or "taste everything", or because we eat of habit. We eat candy and snacks as much as there is, because it's a habit to bring the tasty bit in your mouth and eat it. You could really have everything you want if you stopped when you are satisfied in stead of trying to "finish" or "empty your plate". I truly believe that if we eat what we want to eat, as much as we want to, when we want to, and stopped eating, in the middle of a spoonful or chew, when we don't really feel like eating anymore, we would feel a lot better.

Dress in clothes that are comfortable and pleasurable to wear. Don't give a damn about "rules"; how a person having your body type or build or size should be dressed and how to enhance your "good sides". The whole of you is good. You look exactly as you should.

Use the colors you love, don't bother finding out which colors "suit" you. Surround yourself with colors you love.

All the items in your home should be as beautiful and pleasing all senses as possible. Find the softest, smoothest sheets in colors you love and use linen scent that makes you smile when you put your head on the pillow. Choose a pillow that is perfect. Choose the softest, warmest duvets if that is what you like, or the heaviest cotton quilts. Have all the interior design elements of the most pleasing colors, shapes, sizes and materials you can find. Only have things you consider being beautiful AND useful in your home. Remember, soul food is also a use... :-)

Have pictures on your walls. Reproductions of your favorite paintings, or some new finds from some internet self promotion site, like Deviant Art or Etsy. Or learn to take photos and have them on your walls. Surround yourself with beauty. Especially places where you spend most of the time, like kitchen/dining space, bedroom and bathroom/toilet. Those places should be as perfect as you can create.

Remember to please all your senses. Make certain of that you will see something pleasurable, smell something pleasurable, taste something pleasurable, hear something pleasurable and feel something pleasurable. Especially people who can't move much need to create a haven and paradise on earth of their home or room in which they are confided.

Complete a goal every day for a year

"I'm trying to do this one but I'm low on money and have no friends.
I don't know how all those free-spirited women in movies do it. They make it look so easy to just walk out their door and have adventures. Maybe I just need to have a more positive aura. I'm probably blocking opportunities with my negativity. I've been trying hard lately to embrace life and do as many new things as possible but keep coming back to "need a better job" and "this would be fun or easier to do if I had at least one best friend""
said Niala on Bucketlist.

So, how to do this if you don't have any money or friends?
You know, most people don't have much money or many friends with whom to do things.
But most people's goals don't require money and friends to be completed.

Firstly, some goals cannot be completed in a day. Like "Watch the 250 best movies at IMDb". It would be better to change this goal into "complete 365 goals this year".

Secondly, Niala has listed over 400 goals. There's bound to be things you want to have done that can be completed without money (or with little money) and with no friends, or by making friends while completing it.
More about that later.

Thirdly, you can do this like Zombiegirl and write a precise list with dates, that will be easy to follow and complete, or you can have a "goal bowl" or "daily goal jar", and just pick up one and do it. To be able to do it this way, you need to choose goals from your list that you can do right now, without anything more than what you have right now.

Suggestions for goals that are completable in a day without money (or with little money) and with no friends

1) Divide your bigger goals into part goals that can be completed in a day.
Examples of this kind of goals are:
- lists of movies to see. Watch one movie a day. (remember to add "watched a movie a day for a week/a month/a year")
- lists of books to read. Read 1/7 of a book in a day. (remember to add "read a book a week for a year")
- if you plan to watch every episode of --- or listen every song on an album / by a certain artist, this can be achieved one piece/episode/album a day.

2) Go through your local events and see if you can participate in any for free, or if they need volunteers

3) Write a page / chapter / x number of pages / x number of words a day

4) Practice --- an hour (you will be able to learn anything if you practice one hour every day for a longer period of days.

5) Learn a new word every day / 10 new words (in a foreign language) / 10 new signs (sign language)
Very few people can learn a new language in a day, but you can learn a limited part of the language in a day. x number of words or sentences. Translate a sentence / x sentences / page of a book. Watch a movie / episode of a tv series. Read a comic book in target language.

6) Train a new habit every day. For example, there are already planned programs for a lot of physical challenges like "Couch to 5K" or "100 push-ups", and all you need to do is to transfer the program to your "goal a day" calender and make the partial goal; each step of the road your goal of the day.

7) Bake/cook a new recipe. Learn to bake/cook something. Bake/cook something and eat something you haven't eaten before. Eat something new.

Remember, unless you have defined that the result must be "perfect", look nice, taste wonderful, be made by all the rules of the book, you just need to bake/cook it to be able to say you have baked/cooked it.
You don't need to like it.
You don't need to make it ever again.
You don't need to save the recipe.
You just need to do it.

8) season related goals
- if there is snow in the area where you live, check off the "build a snowman", "make a snow angel", etc. goals, one each day.
- Go to a beach and build a sand castle. Heck, you don't need to build the sand castle on a beach. You can build in in kid's sand box. 2 years old kids know how to build a sand castle.

Yes, this is a sand castle.
Yes, it counts.
Yes, you pack a mold full of sand and turn it out of the mold.
Voilà. You're done.

Go read some season related "family bucket lists" or "(season) to do lists"
Get the "play in autumn leaves" and "go skinny-dipping" goals completed.

9) Kiddie-things
There are these "things kids should do before growing up" lists. Most of those are things that are quick, easy and free. You can use them to fill some "difficult days".

10) Climb a tree, a rock, a fence...

11)  be a moderator for a fan site, have a blog, etc. etc.
There really are no requirements. Anyone can create a Wiki for any subject or a bigtent group, or get themselves a blog, a twitter account, a tumblr account, Facebook account...

Now, if you want to get a SUCCESSFUL net endeavor, you need to work for it. Write into your daily calender weekly blog updates etc. There's a lot of free and good information and help about blogging and becoming a good blogger.

- be active, be reliable

- follow others, leave comments, likes, respond to tweets - be the kind of follower you'd want for yourself
- reblog, retweet
- be positive, polite and avoid irritating, flammable or sensitive topics. Be respectful, kind and generous.
- blog about things you are interested in
- create original content
- tag your posts
- have a common theme with your social media, connect the different accounts, and get active on Pinterest and Instagram (if you have a good smartphone)

12) Celebrate xxx
There are hundreds of different "national day of this and that" days. Every day is the day of something. If you find nothing interesting to celebrate, celebrate your unbirthday. That's 364 days a year.

13) start writing a journal
A dream journal, health journal, book journal, movie journal, what ever journal - get a cheap composition book, a pen and start writing. It really is as easy as that.
Now, if you want a fancy art journal kind of thing, or do Project Life, scrapbooking in a specific way, if you want to have a fine, expensive journal and a good, expensive pen - or a lot of them - that's going to cost a bit more. But you don't NEED them. All you need is pen and paper. And the most important, essential ingredient. YOU TAKING TIME AND SITTING DOWN TO DO IT.
Frankly, it's better if you start with a cheap composition book and a cheap rollerpoint, and save the expensive stuff to the day when you can trust that you will actually do the work, when you have got in the habit.

14) Answer this questionnaire or that.
Again, just do it.
- 50 questions that will free your mind
- 5000 questions survey

15) Learn to play ---
Just pick what you want to learn to play, divide the chore in pieces that you are comfortable completing in a day, and go for it. For example "learn to play guitar 1/30"
And, yes, you can learn to play a guitar in 30 days. But you won't learn to play guitar WELL in 30 days. You won't be able to play EVERYTHING with a guitar after 30 days. You won't be able to join a band as a guitarist. You are not a guitarist. But you know how to play a guitar. You are still a beginner, and you will need to practice a lot. Like 1/2-2 hours EVERY DAY to become GOOD. But you can play a guitar, and you know if you want to keep playing guitar and you know your way around the guitar so much that you can start experimenting with more advanced playing.

It's like knitting. You can learn to knit in a day. But you won't be able to buy any pattern and think you'll manage.

16) Learn a craft
As said, you can learn to knit in a day. Heck, it doesn't take more than some 15 minutes. It's not difficult. That's how Kaffe Fassett started :-D
Most crafts are easy to learn, difficult to get good at. ;-)

17) Memorize --- (song lyrics, poem, Bible verses...)

18) Have a picnic

19) Improve ---
That's a question of practicing. Anything practiced improves your skills in it.
You could for example choose to improve your signature. The way to do this is to write your signature over and over and over and over again...
Or "improve my British accent"

20) Random Act of Kindness

21) Roll a cherry stem with my tongue

22) Send a postcard to post secret

23) Sing karaoke in public. A lot of pubs and bars have karaoke. A lot of them have it free. All it takes is for you to find out where the closest one is and go on a karaoke night and do it.

24)  Sleep only 4-6 hours a night / Sleep under the stars / Watch the same day's sunrise and sunset / Be awake from sunset to sunrise

25) Spend the Day BLIND

26) Wear a bikini / wedding gown / what ever
- Go to a store and try on one. Done.

27) Write a letter to my future/past self  - Write a letter to ---

28) Write with a quill and ink - you'll need quill, ink and paper. Then it's just to write.

29) Write with my blood as ink
Probably easiest with an dip pen.

30) Donate money/time/extra items

31) Finance a kickstart project

32) Donate blood
(Find out the rules where you live. I can't donate blood because of my medication. It also takes about a month before the initial tests are done for a first time donator or someone with a longer pause.)

33) Plant a tree
I suggest you plant apple seeds from the next apple you eat, and cultivate them until they are about 10 inches. Then you take a pot and a garden trowel with you when taking a walk, and plant the sapling in a nice place, preferably in a place where the grass is not cut and where people don't walk a lot, so that the tree may grow. In some 10 years your apple tree will produce fruits.

34) send a message with a balloon / send a message in a bottle / hide a secret in a library book / hide a secret in a book in a book store

35) Be a Tourist in You Own Town

36) Complete a 1000-Piece Jigsaw Puzzle (Perhaps not in a day...)

37) Finish a Crossword Puzzle

38) Have a Collection
Well... practically you would need more than one or two things to have a "collection", but let's say that you plan to start collecting turquoise jewelry. Then your first piece is the "starter piece of your collection"... and theoretically it IS a collection.

39) Invent something

40) Join a book club. (Or any other club)

41) Learn the Heimlich Maneuver

42) Learn to Juggle
It really takes just a couple of minutes to learn the actual technique, but getting good at it takes quite a bit longer :-D

45) Leave My Mark in Graffiti

46) Make a Balloon Animal

47) Own an Original Piece of Artwork
Take a piece of paper. Make art. Done. You now own an original piece of artwork.
Oh, you meant by some REAL artist? A piece that's actually GOOD?
Go to Etsy and buy one. Or any other art selling site.

48) Share Your Most Embarrassing Moment

49) Start Fire Without Matches. Yes, you can learn to do this right now, with what you have right now, and you'll learn this in a day. (Well... with certain reserves... if you are in prison, for example, you probably won't be able to do this. Right now...)

50) Surprise Someone

Traveling...

A lot of Bucket Lists are about traveling, or have at least one travel goal. People want to see a specific place, travel around the world, set foot on every continent or visit every capital or follow a list or another.

Traveling is really easy goal.

All you need to do is
- find out where you want to go
- find out how to get there
- find out how much it costs
- find the money
- take time off and
- go

There are thousands of sites online giving you tips and advice on everything from how to pack your backpack to which stores to visit in Paris.
There's even quite a lot of resources to help you travel cheap.

Here's a couple

Do you need to be rich to travel the world?
No. But there are a couple of qualities that help. If you like people and company, and meeting new people every day, if you don't mind some (or a lot) uncomfort time to time, if you are not picky when it comes to food or where you sleep, if you have the will and health, you can travel very cheap.
And you can learn all that. To like people, to love company, to love meeting new people every day, do not mind uncomfort, to eat anything, sleep anywhere, to will and even to some extend you can control your health, too. It doesn't hurt anyone to be in good physical condition, and the conditions you can't control, won't stop you from traveling.
Most of the time. There are some conditions that have to be considered, like having AIDS. Some countries refuse to let in people who are sick.
Anyhoo

The Ultimate Guide To Traveling When You Have No Money

Travel Without Money

 9 Ways To Travel The World For Free (Or Even Get Paid To Do It!)

How to travel the world for free (seriously)

but... you need to consider the downsides of this too.
10 reasons why traveling for free is BS. There's always pay. SOMEONE must always pay... and it's not fair to force someone pay for your fun, especially when that someone has less than you.

How to reach your goals?

It really is that simple. Easy? Not at all.

So - let's have a dream journal, or The List Journal.

Write a page in your Dream Binder for every dream you have, how ever big or small, how ever reasonable and rational, how ever possible.

Then you need to break down every dream into steps.

To do that, you need to define your dream.

"I want to be able to do the splits".
Good. But if you word it like that, all you'll have if your dream comes true, is that you WANT to be able to do the splits. You'll be WANTING forever.
"I can do the splits" is better.
"I do the splits every morning" is even better.
Form the sentence in a way that is active, without "want" or "wish".
Write the dream down as if you are describing the future you doing it.

Then you need to write down what you need to get from the current reality to that reality.

When it comes to splits, all you need to do is stretch. There are plenty of people out there who have already written down into steps how to become able to make the splits.
(Maybe there are already plans made for all your dreams. Good. But it would be better if you actually thought about it yourself... Because YOU know what you can do RIGHT NOW, YOU know what you must change, YOU know how much time and when you have to change those things, YOU know your potential and your resources.)

Keep your mind open for new ideas, and keep an eye on others who are working with the same goal.
Remember to write down all the ideas, good, bad and evil, in your Dream Binder. Those ideas might give birth to other, more realistic ideas, and for other goals.

After you have broken the dream down into manageable, realistic steps, steps that you can actually take, right now, with what you have and what you are, you need to schedule the steps. Put a date on the dream.

You might need to review the plan and the steps and the time schedule and make it more realistic for YOU. We are all individuals and unique, so what's good for the goose, might not work for the gander. Just remember that we all can't take the same road, but we all can get to the goal one way or another.

When you have a plan, start doing. Take at least 15 minutes every day to work on the plan, towards the goal, what ever it is. And when I say "15 minutes", I mean 15 minutes. Put on a timer, and start working, and don't stop before the timer peeps. What you can do in 15 minutes is a good form for one step.

Also, share your dreams. Don't mind if there are people who laugh at you, try to find the people who are dreaming of the same thing, and get together to help each other.

The next thing is to implement a system of consequences.

Reward yourself with something that really matters a lot to you. You could, for example, give yourself a token for every 15 minutes you take to work toward your plan. When you have 100 tokens, buy yourself a gift.

Punish yourself with something that really matters a lot to you. You could, for example, pay with a token for every daily 15 minutes you did NOT work, or not watch television until you have worked the 15 minutes.

These are "Muffins and Mocha"s weight loss token jars.
The weight loss community has a lot of ideas about how to reach your goals,

and you can adjust them to fit your purposes.

You could for example earn your travel money by studying languages and 

rewarding you with a dollar for every 15 minutes spent in studying the new language.

Let's say you need 500 dollars for the tickets.

You'd need to do 500 15 minutes passes in studying.

In the end that counts as 125 hours of study,

and if you study 5 hours a week, it will take you 25 weeks.

A school term.
You might not have learned the language perfectly,

but you will have learned enough to get you communicating during the trip. 

To do that, you would need 500 tokens in the "start" jar,

and when you have studied your 15 minutes, take out a token and put a dollar in the "goal" jar.

If you don't have a dollar, put the token in the "goal" jar,

and promise yourself to replace it with a dollar as soon as possible.

Keep that promise!

If you don't, you will be stealing from yourself!

You will be cheating yourself from the reward, and making it harder to reach the goal.

Frankly, if you don't have any extra money, go and earn that dollar. 

Sell something.

Do someone a job to get a couple of dollars.

Also, when ever you get some extra dollars, save them in the "start" jar to wait.

If paying the dollar is not a problem, put the extra dollars in the "goal" jar.

Also, get someone to whom you'll report weekly about your progress. Be accountable.

Now, if you are reading this blog, and want to do this, you can report to me. Just comment in the blog.

You can also have a blog to record your journey in. It's very much appreciated, as a lot of people are trying to make the same kind of dreams come true, and your journey will inspire them :-)